I consider myself as a tour guide, showing you routes to potentials and possibilities you might not have acknowledged yet. If you can put your therapy 'walking boots' on and make the journey with me, we can find your personal outcome, or at the very least, a realisation of what that looks like when aspects of life can be changed. For couples who have a mixed agenda of what they want from therapy, they are often surprised at finding that they want the same things when they felt themselves to be at the end of the road. Deciding to part ways and use the work to understand their part in the break up, or agree how to look after their children, are also valid outcomes.
I cover most events that happen to humans and the feelings stored up about events. Here is a short, incomplete list.
affairs
betrayals
feeling 'lost'
anxiety/depression
grief
loss of confidence
social anxiety
family pressures
work pressures
feeling that the love has gone
ending a relationship and minimising hurt to each other
what to tell the children about breakups, and what not to say
leaving childhood hurts behind
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A few highlights and specialities of my work:
Of course, couples work is a deeply specialised area of work, individuals have deep needs too.
I am a trauma-informed counsellor and have taken several specialist advanced training courses to equip me for this work.
I also have academic and lived experience of working with Neurodivergence.
One of those unexpected developments in my professional life has been the privilege to work deeply with ethical non-monogamy; its quite unusual for clients for this aspect to work with a therapist who doesn't practice this life choice.
I work with referrals from a specialist in sex and porn addiction. I work in support of the partners, to help with the shock, the realisation, processing 'what next'. This is not interactive, neither therapist reports back to the other, we work with the individuals completely separately.
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